It's not you, it's me

Have you ever been dumped by a platonic friend? I've dropped girlfriends who were toxic to me or themselves. One woman I dumped after she went back to an abusive boyfriend. Some former friends became former because I just didn't have the energy for their negativity any longer. I've never been the dumpee before now.

I have (well, had) this friend. We've known each other for years, and we weren't super close, but you know, sort of email friends, but lately he seems to be avoiding me. I'm not sure what I did wrong. I know that individuals rarely can tell when they themselves are being annoying, and I'm open to the possibility that I am abhorrently annoying to this former friend. I wonder, though, if what I've done wrong is to meet and fall in love with David. My friend doesn't know Dave, and wasn't interested in me himself, it's not that. It's that I think I may have been more interesting when I was looking for love. I say this in part because I have another friend (they don't know each other) who recently got a girlfriend, and I find him SO boring now, I hardy want to chat. He was much more interesting when he was lonely. Now all he wants to talk about is his girlfriend and how good the sex is. It's not that I don't want him to be happy--I do, it's just that he's less fun to talk to when he is. It's the classic indie rock star phenomenon: Liz Phair was fascinating and compelling when she sang "Fuck and Run," this whole happy pop song shit since she got married is just plain boring.

Is that my problem? Am I too happy? Is that why I've been dumped? Because honestly, I don't feel too happy. Part of me says I should contact my former friend and ask what's up, but if I'm right, he'll never admit it. I wouldn't.